A few years back, say 1999. I met someone who I eventually had Reese with, who took me to the state of Minnesota to start a new life together. On a whim. There was where I gave birth to Reese and realized that I had to do some growing up really fast. Becoming an adult in a hurry in a place where I knew no one and nothing about life and not to mention doing it with someone who's extremely selfish... was extremely difficult to say the least.There was where I went through more of an emotional rollercoaster than I could imagine. Until one day I realized that I couldn't do it on my own anymore and called for help to come home to CA.
This time, however, is much different.
I am married to the love of my life. We are financially stable. We have a beautiful family and a good solid relationship. I am (we are) adults now and able to rationalize and plan things accordingly.
With that said...
Chris's long time friend Greg recently made a career move to Tempe, Arizona for a six figure salary job that he's enjoying (so far). He's been calling Chris every day to convince him to make the move. See... here's the thing with Greg, he doesn't have a family of 4 to worry about. He doesn't own a home (neither do we, but still), his move is just for himself and his career. Chris is really excited about getting this offer from Greg's new company and making the move to AZ.
I am still not convinced.
Sorry baby if you're reading this. I'm not saying you're making anything up or getting excited for nothing.
Moving to another state still scares me. I have deep wounds from the last time I did this and I don't want that to happen again. This time I am more prepared mentally and making plans way ahead of time. Listing everything that needs to be done and preparing for how the kids might take it. I am telling friends and family (last time I just picked up and left). Of course, my mom and dad aren't around anymore, so that's not such a heavy weight on my mind in that aspect.
Right now, how it's going to work for us, if it's happening at all... is Chris would go out there first and start with the job. Feel it out and see if he's going to hang with it (not that he will have a choice, they are paying him a lot of money to coax him to come out). I will stay behind and let Reese finish second grade here and get things in order. That would leave about 3-4 months.
I've been actively looking for places to live and jobs for me. Cost of living is definitely cheaper down there, but it's also 150 degree heat in the summer. At the same time though, no one is going to pay me the salary that I make here. That's just reality. So... we might break even.
I will miss my friends, Renegades, the family I have left here.
BUT... we'll be closer to VEGAS!
lol
